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Developing the Slave
Mind-Set
Master David
Defining the
Relationship: Becoming a voluntary slave in a BDSM
relationship can mean very different things. Total or partial power
exchange? Full time? Part time? Sex slave? Favorite pet? Household slave?
Torture slave? Some combination? Total, no limits slave? Will it be a caring or
harsh relationship? Something else? Regardless of the details, all share a common
theme – giving up some or all control of your life to a Master - perhaps me.
Giving up control sounds easy when you first think of it.
Perhaps even sexually exciting, which, when you think of it further, doesn’t
fit. Slavery is all about meeting my needs, not your own, isn’t it?
If you need to be sexually excited by the idea of total submission, is it true
slavery and can it really work?
In truth, a voluntary Master/slave (M/s) relationship must
be a two-way street. Both partners (not equal, but still partners) must get
what they need out of the relationship, or it quickly crosses the line into true
abuse. We don’t want to go there.
Submitting fully to Me or any decent Master brings certain rewards. It means you are in my “care.” You are freed to live in the moment, following my rules, performing assigned tasks, focusing only on My needs. In some
ways, it’s like being a child again. An M/s relationship can provide at least temporary relief from work and family stress.
Yes, this means I am taking on a great deal of
responsibility. It’s not all sex and discipline. Especially in a full-time
relationship, I must consider what’s best for my slaves in all areas –
food, medical care, emotional support, education, training, recreation, employment,
sex, discipline, and more. Even if I wish to create the illusion of being
used without regard for the slave, these things must still be considered.
An M/s relationship could be lonely for both Master and slave.
If a slave is truly being used without regard for
feelings or needs, there will be little or no emotional connection. Personally,
I could not live with this sort of relationship long-term. I will control my slave, but I
also believe that a contented slave is better able to serve. A slave should
love and worship its Master, and the Master should at least care about the
slave’s well-being, both long and short term.
Thinking Like a Slave: This doesn’t come naturally for most people, even submissives. You may have a
submissive personality, but taking the next step into a true slave mindset
requires adjustments. You must give away all control, trust Me with
your safety, and make your life all about pleasing Me. I must be the sole
reason you exist – to serve My needs while letting me decide what's best for you. To you, your needs have no real importance now. You get to cum when it pleases Me.
You pleasure Me when I want it. If I decide to punish you for failing in
some way, or just to amuse myself, you must go willingly, knowing that it will
please Me. Anything that falls within our pre-agreed limits is fair game.
Acquiring this mindset will require some training, both by
your Master and on your own. The best way to get started is to constantly
imagine yourself in the relationship, doing what you’re told and working hard
to please me. Picture every imaginable scenario. Feel yourself letting go, reacting
automatically to My commands. Practice ignoring your own needs and using
proper slave manners. Do it over and over until it feels natural and automatic.
I will use other techniques to train your mind,
including encouragement, instruction, and discipline when needed. Imagine those
situations, too. Feel the pain and absorb it, knowing it is intended either to improve
your performance or please your Master.
If you find your resolve or focus wavers, repeat this slave
mantra over and over to yourself or out loud.
“I am a slave, my Master’s property. My mind and body are His. I exist only to
serve and please Him.” Believe it with your very soul. Make it part of your
being.
Slave "Ownership" Contracts: A slave
contract is not legally binding – it can’t be. It serves only as an informal
agreement between two consenting persons and should state as much. However, it
might be instrumental in helping prove free will if it ever comes to that.
Contracts also serve an essential purpose by defining the scope and limits of
the relationship so that both Master and slave will know what is expected. A
well written and accurate contract will contribute greatly to the success of
the relationship.
The contract should clearly define the areas of control or
freedom, any specific or general limits, and all expectations of both parties.
It must be detailed and clear enough to reduce potential for conflict. Masters
should be careful not to put any pressure on a slave during the writing
process. Every aspect of the agreement must reflect the slave’s free will in
signing. A signing statement to that effect should be included, e.g. “I, the
undersigned, enter into this agreement of my own free will and without duress.”
Once signed, both Master and slave should re-read it often,
both to refresh memory and to discover any areas in need of change or
clarification. Contracts must include a mechanism for slaves to bring up any concerns
or issues without breaching slave manners.
Your contract can also help you along in the process of
becoming a true slave. It’s a clearly marked point of change in your life, a
stepping from one side of a line to another, a formal handing over of control.
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