Safe - Sane - Consensual
Master David
 
Staying Safe
 
Obviously, everything we do together has to be safe and sane – and most important, consensual. In fact, if you ever come across a dom who doesn’t follow similar rules, RUN!
 
 
Safe and Slow Words
 
This is a consensual relationship, but your safety is paramount. You need a clear and simple means of bringing play to a halt or slowing it down if it goes too far or too fast for you.

Your Safe word is your consent to me. By speaking your Safe word, you withdraw consent and require an instant all-stop. Use it if you are in physical trouble or just can’t or don’t want to go on.

The Slow word tells me to re-evaluate what we’re doing and possibly ask questions to see what needs to be adjusted.

Obviously, words like “stop” or “no” might come up in the course of play, so we use alternative words. Your Safe word can be Symphony, or Goldfish. Your Slow word is Turtle. Carefully memorize these words! If you are gagged or otherwise unable to speak I might give you small two rubber balls to hold. Drop one for Slow, both for Safe - OR, just do anything in groups of three - grunt, stomp, slap - anything that will get my attention.

 
Hard Limits

There are likely some things you just absolutely don’t want to do. For some it’s a certain level of pain, or anal sex, etc, whatever is beyond your comfort level. You need to communicate those to me very clearly. I will respect them.

Try not to make your limits too specific. Keep them general, like “only mild pain” to allow us more flexibility in play. Some things do need to be specific, like “no breath control” or “no ball torture.”

I have some hard limits of my own. I won’t do scat, blood, permanent injury, anything that puts health, life or limb at risk, or is illegal.
 
Soft Limits

There may be things you would like to try but are uneasy with, or personal limits you want me to push. Generally I take things a bit more slowly and carefully if we’re dealing with a soft limit. If you want a soft limit pushed, tell me.

Knowing the Scene in Advance

Some beginner subs want to know every detail of what's going to happen before we start. I consider this to be a real mood killer. The tension and fear of not knowing what’s going to happen is a large part of what makes BDSM so interesting! If you insist, I’ll give you a general idea, but please don’t ask for lots of detail. I’d rather have nothing but our hard and soft limits and your general interests known in advance. This is known in the BDSM world as "non-consensual consent." However, if you're ultra-nervous, we should sit down and talk before getting into anything.